Let’s talk about sex, baby. – Salt’n'Pepa
Seriously, what the fuck is up with all my cheesy music quotations? Who knows? In lieu of the upcoming Coming Out day or whatever it is supposed to be this week, I have decided to dedicate this weeks entry to things that I question about sexuality.
Rather, I’d like to know why it is still so controversial? Why is it that a country such as the United States, which was founded and developed with all these progressive ideas and freedoms in mind came to be so prude and conservative? And in doing so, why is it that we have higher rates of tons of problems than other countries? We are neither happier, or smarter, or anything for that matter.
For starters, let me give you two links:
http://healthland.time.com/2010/09/09/what-the-u-s-can-learn-from-the-dutch-about-teen-sex/
The second link is ugly, not just in format, but in content. There is a crazy difference between those stats. And its primarily caused by the inability of people to accept that sex is part of life. It’s how we survived as a species. Because we fuck. And we love to fuck. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in that. There shouldn’t be shame in anything we do, or would like to pursue. Different forms of sex, sex with different people, or multiple people, or people of the same sex. What does it matter? What does any of it matter? If you actually think about it, what is sex?
There is of course several different arguments over which actions would constitute as actually being sex. Does it start with a kiss? Does it start with oral sex? Well, it does have the word sex in it! So it must be! But Bill Clinton would beg to differ. Is it solely an act of reproduction? So then why are people mad at all the gays? They technically can’t have sex with each other! So we’re all good!
If we were to say that it would be constituted by penetration, then what would be the difference between making a fist with one of your hands and fingering it with the other? How come a penis is treated so differently? And so is a vagina? They are, in essence, still just a collection of skin cells, nerve endings, filled with blood and other gooey bits. Yet, it’s perfectly normal to suck on your own finger in public, but try to suck a dick in public, and you get in trouble.
But why is it that we are ashamed even of our own bodies? We hide away from being naked. We have laws in place that make it wrong to expose your genitals. The only reason I can think of was that this was an evolutionary reason. Protecting our own goodies was vital to the continuation of the human race. Makes sense. This would be why the breasts of women are coveted so much, yet men have the same nipples and can get away with exposing them more often. At some point in time, we associated function with value, and with that came the need to somehow protect these assets through a little bit of deception and shame. As kids, most of us were taught that to enjoy these natural things was wrong and sinful.
That’s why I feel we should all just be open about this sort of thing. Let’s treat it the way that it deserves to be treated, simply as an action to be enjoyed and shared. If everyone was open to sex, there would be no confusion. There would be no hate. Only love. Lots of love. And sex. Lots of sex.
Let’s all start having sex. Let US start by having sex.
